September 6, 2026 Sermon Series Discussion Guide: A Holy Mess(1 Corinthians), Worth the Cost
September 7, 2026
Summary
In this sermon from 1 Corinthians 9, Pastor Ryan continues the series "A Holy Mess" by exploring what it means to live as kingdom people in community. Using the Apostle Paul's own life as the central example, the sermon examines how Paul, though he had every right to financial support, a spouse, and social standing, chose to lay those rights down so that nothing would hinder others from experiencing the gospel. The key insight is that knowing something to be true is not enough. What matters is what we do with that knowledge when another person enters the picture.
The sermon builds toward a call to spiritual self-control, illustrated through the image of Greek athletes training for the Isthmian Games. Paul's point is that self-control is not simply a matter of willpower but of where the heart is set. When the gospel becomes the guiding vision of a person's life, it reorders every other desire and passion. Just as Jacob's love for Rachel made seven years of labor feel like a few days, a heart fully set on the love of God will find the strength to surrender rights, preferences, and comforts for the sake of others experiencing that same love.
Intro Prayer
Heavenly Father, as we gather together today, we ask that you would quiet the noise in our minds and soften the assumptions we carry into this room. We do not want to come with low expectations or a sense that we already know everything you have for us. Open our hearts to hear something new, to have familiar truths go deeper, and to be genuinely changed by your Spirit. Help us to be honest with one another and with ourselves as we discuss your Word. We invite you to move in this group in ways only you can. In Jesus' name, amen.
Ice Breaker
What is something you have worked really hard for, and what kept you motivated when it got difficult?
Key Verses
- 1 Corinthians 9:1-18
- 1 Corinthians 9:19-23
- 1 Corinthians 9:24-27
- Galatians 5:22-23
- Romans 9:3
Questions
- Pastor Ryan opened with the story of two men who both knew about the same antique train but understood it in completely different ways. How does the way we come to know something shape what we do with that knowledge, especially in our relationships with others?
- Paul spends nearly 18 verses in 1 Corinthians 9 establishing that he has genuine rights, and then he explains why he chose not to use them. Why do you think it was important for Paul to first affirm that those rights were real before explaining why he laid them down?
- Paul made his entire life a living picture of the gospel by refusing financial support so that no one would think the message came with strings attached. In what ways do our lives either reflect or contradict the message of the gospel we say we believe?
- The sermon described how Paul was willing to submit to 39 lashes on five separate occasions in order to remain connected to his Jewish community and keep the door open for the gospel. What does that level of commitment challenge you to think about in your own relationships with people who do not yet know Christ?
- Paul says he became "all things to all people" not as a chameleon but out of genuine love and a desire to reach people. Where is the line between adapting to reach others and compromising your convictions? How do you navigate that in your own life?
- The sermon used the image of Greek athletes training for the Isthmian Games to illustrate spiritual self-control. The point was that self-control is not about willpower alone but about having a greater desire that orders all other desires. What is currently functioning as the guiding vision or greatest desire of your life, and how is it shaping your decisions?
- Thomas Chalmers said, "The only way to dispossess the heart of an old affection is by the expulsive power of a new one." What does it look like practically to set your heart more fully on the gospel so that it begins to reorder your other desires and habits?
- Pastor Ryan closed by asking what rights, preferences, or convictions we might be holding onto in ways that could be hindering someone else from experiencing the beauty of the gospel. Is there anything in your life right now that you sense God may be asking you to lay down for the sake of a relationship or for someone's spiritual growth?
Life Application
This week, identify one right, preference, or opinion that you have been holding tightly, whether in a relationship, at work, in your family, or in your church community. Prayerfully ask God whether that thing is creating a barrier between you and someone else, or between someone else and the gospel. Then take one concrete step to lay it down. It might mean initiating a conversation, choosing not to argue a point you know you could win, or simply showing up for someone in a way that costs you something. Journal about what you notice in yourself and in that relationship as a result.
Key Takeaways
- Having a right does not mean you are always obligated to exercise it. Paul had legitimate rights to financial support, a spouse, and social standing, and he chose to surrender all of them so that nothing would become a barrier to the gospel.
- The way we know something is inseparable from how we live with others. Knowledge that does not lead to love and sacrifice for others is incomplete knowledge, no matter how accurate it may be.
- Spiritual self-control is not primarily a matter of willpower. It flows from where the heart is set. When the gospel becomes the supreme desire of your life, it brings every other desire and passion into order beneath it.
- Paul made his entire life a living parable of the gospel, becoming all things to all people not out of people-pleasing but out of a deep love rooted in his own experience of being loved and forgiven by God.
- Complacency in the Christian life often comes from holding tightly to our own preferences and rights. Laying those things down is not a loss but the very pathway to experiencing the depth and beauty of the gospel more fully.
Ending Prayer
Lord, thank you for this time together and for the truth of your Word that does not leave us where it finds us. We confess that we often hold tightly to our rights, our preferences, and our need to be right, and we ask for the grace to loosen our grip. Set our hearts so fully on the gospel, on the reality that we are deeply loved and forgiven through Christ, that every other desire begins to find its proper place beneath that one great love. Give us the courage this week to lay something down for the sake of another person. And when we do, let us experience you in a deeper and more real way than we have before. We pray this together in the name of Jesus, amen.
*Discussion guide comes from sermon given by Pastor Ryan Leeds and material created with Sermon Shots.